Amazing.
I always thought a "round" of tapping lasted as long as Magnus's videos. For a second I was like "there aren't even 31 hours in the day, how'd this guy manage that?!".
There is an old kung fu saying that applies to this!
"Volume can kill, so just finish one thing at a time. How do you think the camel broke it's back? With an anvil? No, a straw"
Some things that can keep you credible with your attempts is convenience and planning out your goal.
This is what I do sometimes because I get distracted from my goals (Seem to think I'm finished sometimes before I am
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First, take what's bugging you then take a comic book approach. Just write out or imagine the most awesome turn of events. Pretend the altercation has already started (event, altercation, trigger, what ever starts your negative emotional cycle). Just imagine the bad event has started exactly how it always does, or just has. Depending on the frequency of course (always use context in this). Then pretend your a comic book character or an action hero in a graphic novel and re-write the story so you become victorious and then just imagine it to the greatest detail you can. But don't re-write the beginning, just the stuff after it starts and your in that emotional state of mind.
What that does is give your mind some kind of an idea of what your actually trying to get out of the situation.
Then just keep the description in a place you can get to it all the time, like on your desktop on a pc in a text document. Something easy to get to so you can't create an excuse like it's too hard to find or something like that.
Excuses are the minds way of stopping you for the most part.
So then just try to tap on your own on the issues that pop up, like anger, shyness, sadness. Most of the time for me it's the strongest emotion noticable at the time (easier to find it ya know, aka "convenience"). Then after like 15 minutes if it's a big issue you can start to see the onion peeling back to reveal the other emotions.
It's pretty cool too after a long duration of tapping, because you can see how tapping works first hand.
If you can't bring your self to tap because of some self defeating belief against your dream set of circumstances then use the videos.
Magnus's videos are really, really convenient and if you keep tapping on just one vid for the entire length, usually you can colaterally tap on other issues without even realizing it (saves a ton of work and sometimes you will tap entirely through issues your working on alternatively without even realizing it).
And then after you tap each day, or session (heck as often as you can) just re-read your goal for that issue (the preferable outcome) and try to imagine it. The longer you attempt visualizing your success, the more you will change it up to be even better and the more realistic it gets (description wise, logically wise and tangibly/believably wise).
Now you don't have to mix visualization with tapping to get tapping to work, but it definitely helps keep a person motivated when you can see the end result. Most of the time others (from my experiences) have a totally different idea of an outcome then I desire so when I ask them, they send me in a direction opposite of what I had imagined. It's easier to see your own end result and learn off of others experiences then to try to own their experiences and outcomes as your own! That's why some times students quit school. Because they think the answer they hear is the be-all end all. But like Einstein said "Imagination is the preview of life's coming attractions".
The only other thing I can suggest is to keep coming here and talking with the people who you communicate the best with. Some times others will be more positive, but anyone who can help encourage you to meet your goals will be the best. Reinforcing things is the only way to keep them strong right?
Like that old addage "You can't soar with the eagles if your scratching with the turkeys". Anyone who helps you become an eagle can probably be someone you want around ya know?
Were all eagles, just some are bald and some are rare
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